MAY 22, 2011 MINUTES OF THE MEETING AT OLPP

COMMISSION ON THE FAMILY
DIOCESE OF PARANAQUE
HOST: VICARIATE OF THE HOLY FAMILY
VENUE: OUR LADY OF THE PILLAR PARISH
MINUTES OF THE MEETING
JUNE 22, 2011

Attendance: Present Absent
Rey/Mel Sangalang Fr. Lambert/Beni

Allen/Duy Reyes- VHF Dave/Marilyn Ordoñez-VSMDP
Zoilo/Connie Gabriel- VSAP Al/Edna Hermoso-VSJ
Paeng /Nancy Barcelona -VSRDC
Che/Lita Lastica -VOLA South
Gerry/Zeny Mallillin- VOLA North

Vic/Minda Mallilin – Migrant Ministry

Perla Acosta-Counseling
Raul/Baby Delloma-Counseling
Jacqueline Ramos-Counseling

Tony/Baby Paez-OLPP Host Parish/VHF
Ed/Marichu Mondigo-OLPP Host Parish/VHF
Jojo/Malou Ramos-OLPP Host Parish/VHF


1. Opening prayer by Allen Reyes at 8:40 pm.

2. Gospel Reading on Matthew 7 verses 15-20 by Allen Reyes followed by his reflection and reflection of other attendees.

3. The minutes of the meeting dated May 25, 2011 as amended was moved for approval by Zoilo Gabriel and seconded by Gerry Mallillin.

4.Matters arising from the minutes of May 25, 2011 meeting:

a. On the agreement for the use of Children and Women Crisis Centers

-Atty. Edel Diego is in the process of drafting the MOA to be emailed to Fr. Lambert for review as per Perla Acosta.

b. VCOF directories:

Sta. Rita de Cascia already submitted while that of St. Joseph has not yet been submitted.

c. On the final schedule for the “Ride for Life”

-No date yet as per Mel Sangalang.

d) On the appointment of Vic & Linda Mallillin as official representative of the Diocese on the Ministry of Migrant Workers.


-Vic Mallillin gladly accepted the position as AD HOC Representative on the Migrant Ministry. Gerry and Vic arranged to meet with Fr. Lambert to discuss plans to set up a core group. Vic will be inviting Edmon Cuga next meeting to lay down the agenda on Migrant since they have the experience on it. He also plans to invite from the vicariate Migrants or the migrant’s families.

San Isidro Labrador Parish has started the set up, as per Perla Acosta.

Vic Mallillin said, ideally all parishes must have a desk on Migrant.

e) Pastoral plan of Action in the year of the Youth 2011.

-Rey Sangalang said to limit ourselves on the 4 issues of the matrix. To work out on the plan of action, assignments were given as such-

to develop a module on the parents education regarding sexuality.C/O VSAP/VOLA

Vicariate Formation of parents – c/o VHF/VSR

Parents catechize other parents-c/o VSDP/VSJ.
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f) Mel Sangalang asked the experiences of those who attended the seminar on Nanay Piling’s NFP.

Connie Gabriel reported on her and Bel Abanes’s experience. Rey Sangalang mentioned that Nanay Piling is funded by her experiences. She showed an old format of chart which is easy to follow. He further said that Nanay Piling’s secret is recording her whole life.


UPDATES:.

1. Counseling Ministry

Baby Delloma shared her experience on the 2 - day seminar she attended with Mel & Connie, the CBCP on Women on June 18-19, that made her realize the awareness on what help they, as counselors, can do with other people in distress in discovering God.

The seminar was participated by counselors from different crisis centers.

She also reported the figure of counselors as follows:
For 2010, TS Cruz has an average of 5 counselees per month while St. Andrew has 10 ( inclusive of inquiries)

To date, as of 2011- TS Cruz with an average of 14 counselees and St. Andrew, 5 counselees.

2. Highlights on the vicariate reports have been reported.

Please Refer to the full details of the report which were previously distributed during the June 22, 2011 meeting by VHF, VSRDC, VSADP.

Zoilo and Connie Gabriel reported that 33 parents and 7 youth attended the “Haplos at Kalinga sa Buhay ng anak at Magulang”.

3. Mel Sangalang announced the incoming July 11-12, 2011 Family Life Apostolate Summit at Betania Retreat House in Tagaytay to be participated by South Central Luzon Metro Manila Pro Life Leaders. With allocation of 10 heads per diocese with a fee of P500 per head or P1000 per couple for 2 days.She requested submission of name/s not later than July 2, 2011.

Other matters”

1. Discussed was to create a yahoo group to be worked out by Che Lastica and Vic Mallillin .Bessie was assigned by Fr. Lambert to prepare the website of the commission on the family instead of the counseling ministry alone.

2. Gerry Mallillin invited everyone to read the following
• The Truth & meaning of Human Sexuality
• Humanae Vitae,
• Letter of Pope John 2 to the family.

The next meeting is on June 25 to be hosted by VOLA, the venue to be announced later.

Closing prayer by Paeng Barcelona at about 11:30 pm.

Prepared by Noted by:
Allen/Duy Reyes Fr. Lambert / Fr. Beni
June 23, 2011

Amended April 27 minutes of the meeting

Commission on the Family
Diocese of Paranaque
April 27, 2011
Host: Vicariate of San Antonio de Padua
Venue: Jesus, Divine Healer Parish, Tahanan Village, Paranaque
Approved as Amended on May 25, 2011
at DCOF Meeting at San Martin de Porres Church
Attendance:

Present:

Zoilo and Connie Gabriel San Antonio de Padua
Al and Edna Hermoso St. Joseph
Allen and Duy Reyes Holy Family
David and Marilyn Ordonez St. Martin de Porres
Gerry and Zeny Mallillin Our Lady of the Abandoned (North)
Che and Lita Lastica Our Lady of the Abandoned (South)

Counselling Group:
PerlaAcosta San Isidro Labrador
Edel Diego Presentation of the Child Jesus

VSAP Parish Coordinators/Representatives:

Robert and Ciony Peralta Our Lady of Unity
Bel of Zaki Abanes Our Lady of Peace
Faye of Ely Manuel Ascension of our Lord
Theresita Lariosa Resurrection of our Lord
Romy and Marissa Legaspi San Antonio de Padua

Fr. John Morota and Fr. Joel Ador

Absent:

Paeng and Nancy Barcelona Sta. Rita de Cascia











MINUTES OF THE MEETING

1. Opening Prayer and Gospel Reading by Zoilo Gabriel

2. Reflection on Lk 24:13-35 (The Appearance on the Road to Emmaus)

• We have our own Emmaus story happening to us now. We go through our journey of escaping/running away from our desolation experiences/unmet expectations/fears/doubts/problems by going to Emmaus so we can find our way back to our own Jerusalem.
• When 2 or more are gathered in His name, there is Jesus in our midst. His presence and our faith that He will not abandon us helps us cope with life’s challenges.
• My own Emmaus story at this time is having uncertainty over the coming of our new priest in the light of the re-assignments. But we must give our new priest the welcome he deserves, after all, he may likewise be experiencing the same fears/uncertainties about a possible unaccepting or unwelcoming parish.
• We have to acknowledge and recognize our own feelings of disillusionments on the situation we are in at the present time. We can not escape from these, we need to confront them. Only when we do, with God’s grace can we go back to Jerusalem.
• We need to be aware of God’s presence even in the midst of conflicts/problems and negative situations. We need to pray for God’s grace for us to have a strong faith and trust that God is with us, grace not to leave Jerusalem when problems abound.

3. Review and Approval of the Minutes

Item VIII . C below needed clarification directly from Fr. Lambert to wit:

“Memorandum of Agreement for 2 COF Centers will be issued to the new Parish Priest.” The issue: Assure the continuing use of the COF Centers and at the same time giving due courtesy to the new priest.

Confusion is: Will the Memorandum of Agreement be between the DCOF and the incumbent or incoming parish priest?

Zoilo moved for the approval of the minutes with the exception of the above Item VIII.C. Seconded by Al.

4. Matters arising from the minutes.

4.1. Submission of official list of Vicariate and Parish Coordinators:
COF Workers List submitted to Fr. Lambert by email. Hard copies to be provided to Rey and Mel. VSAP/Holy Family and OLA submitted hard copies.

4.2. Counseling ministry updates:

 For visibility/continuance and awareness purposes, in the absence of a full time counselor on site, Perla Acosta volunteered to be at the Center every Wednesday morning up to 1PM.
 Perla to discuss with Paeng the schedule of St. Gerard volunteers for CWC-St. Andrew
 Staffing of St. Andrew will come from CWC-San Isidro Chapel, Holy Family.
 Volunteers from St. Gerard Family Center will be requested to man St. Andrew on their off days.
 Stella Antonio on call volunteer at St. Andrew. Jackie is on roving and brings clients to San Isidro Labrador.
 Letter of request for the use of San Isidro Labrador as counseling venue was already sent to the Administrator of the Parish. Likewise discussed with Fr. Eric 2 possible venues: the confessional box inside the Church and a small room on the 2nd floor. If there is an overflow, Fr. Eric’s office is available.
 A counseling flow chart guide was submitted (designed by Ruby).
 No response nor feedback from Violy and Ms. Angel on their schedule or assignment despite several follow ups.
 Submitted hard copy of Counseling Center updates.
 Pastoral Counselors handle clients in their own respective parishes and this is included in the montly reports submitted to Sr. Pilar Verzosa.
 A counseling schedule was submitted as to time and availability of counselors (life coaches) in 4 sites: TSCruz, St. Andrew, Haven for Women (every Friday from 9AM to 12PM) and Haven for Children (every Tuesday from 4 Pm to 6PM).

4.3. On counseling center to be identified at St. Martin de Porres.
No Resolution yet.

5. Vicariate Reports: Even if soft copies may have been submitted to Fr. Lambert, it is good to cite the highlights of their report.

5.1. OLA:

• Havent met vicariate yet.
• Presented a draft of letter to Ayala Alabang Barangay Council on their support for a Pro Life Barangay Ordinance and a request to create Bgy Advocacy units to explain ill effect of RH Bill 4244.
• Migrant workers meeting well attended, plaque of appreciation from CBCP for the participation of VSAP in the persons of Gerry and Zeny Mallillin.
• Participated in the Luneta Rally.
• Seminar on RH Bill held.
• Invitation expressed for everyone to attend the St. James sponsored Natural Family Planning seminar on May 28-29.

5.2. Holy Family:

Diocesan formation on NFP workers initiated by our lady of the Pillar held.

5.3. St. Joseph:

Have not met as a Vicariate. Planning to have a symposium on NFP for the month of May.

5.4. St. Martin de Porres:

• Their joy at Mary Help of Christians – self supporting cooperatives supported by the parishioners.
• They made direct contact with Dr. Pala for astoral counselors.
• In their last visit to Congressman Golez, they were asked to come back on May 9 for discussion of RH bill.
• Discussed roots of birth control.

5.4. San Antonio de Padua:

• Recognized members of the VSAP present.
• last meeting was April 11, 2011
• Reviewed NFP, pre cana module and responsible parenthood at MGGC meeting.
• 15 couples participated in the MPP held on March 26-27
• Next VSAP meeting is on May 9 at Our Lady of Peace Parish.
• May 28 schedule of Haplos at Kalinga sa Buhay ng Anak at Magulang, cancelled.

6. Report on Migrant Sunday Celebration by Gerry and Zeny:

• Exceeded expectations, with about 300 participants, 1st time DOP attended the celebration with 39 persons, all with migrants in the family.
• Bishop’s donation is the biggest P25 k.
• Report on CBCP Migrants indicated biggest donation is P90 k from DOP.
• Considering organizing migrant representation co chair - Victorino and Minda Mallillin, themselves, migrants.
• Philippines has 10 million migrants.
• Baclaran holds regular last Friday mass for migrants at 9:30 AM.
• Suggests that all vicariates set aside one Sunday mass to honor migrants; welcome balikbayans, etc. migrants technical term is “people on the move”.

7. Other Matters:

• In the website of the DOP, pastoral priority is the youth.

• Question on next DCOF: How do we (DCOF) realign with the Diocesan Pastoral Thrust (focused on the youth).

• Possible programs where COF can link up with the youth.

1. Liturgy/encounter with Jesus.
2. Formation of parents with Sex education and youth on moral education
3. Parents for parent program.

• Support NFP meeting with Nanay Piling scheduled in La Salle Zobel on May 28-29. P500 per head for 2 days already open to all COF workers.

• Che lita/Gerry Zeny to coord with St. James.

• It was proposed to set up a special meeting of COF leaders on the Rally on the RH Bill.

• Next meeting: May 25, Wed St. Martin de Porres

Closing Prayer by Gerry and Zeny.


PREPARED BY: NOTED BY:

(Sgd). (Sgd)
Mel Sangalang Fr. Lambert Legaspino

Ammended April 27, 2011 minutes of the meeting

Commission on the Family
Diocese of Parañaque
General Monthly Meeting Minutes

Date : 5/25/2011, 7:30 p.m.
Place: St. Martin De Porres Parish, Narra st. United Hills Village 1, Parañaque City


I. Attendance:

Present

• Fr. Lambert Legaspino – HOF DCOF Head
• David & Marilyn Ordoñez – SMDP Host couple
• Zoilo & Connie Gabriel - SADP
• Rey & Mel Sangalang - SADP
• Paeng & Nancy Barcelona – SRDC
• Gerry & Zeny Mallillin – OLA (North)
• Perla Acosta – SILP Counseling Ministry
• Ruby Palma – SMDP Counseling Ministry

Absent

• Al & Edna Hermoso – St. Joseph
• Allen & Duy Reyes – Holy Family
• Che & Lita Lastica – OLA (South)

II. Minutes:

1. Review and Approval of Minutes 4/27/2011

a. Upon motion by Zoilo seconded by Gerry, minutes was approved as amended.


2. Matters arising from the minutes

a. on the agreement for the use of the CWC Centers:

 Atty. Edel Diego was asked to draft the Memorandum of Agreement.
 An existing document from any of the members is welcome to be made as reference.
 The contracting parties shall be the DCOF and the newly installed Parish Priest.

b. VCOF directories for Sta. Rita & St. Joseph still lacking.

 Sis Connie voiced concern regarding continuation to allow incoming Vicar Forane latitude in reorganization.
 Fr. Lambert assured that appointment letters assumes consensus with incoming Vicar Forane. Contimuity is also the concern of Bishop Jesse.
 The present Vicariate Coordinators and their Deputies will be presented to Bishop Mercado.

c. Fr. Lambert announced “Ride for Life” previously scheduled for last week of May is shelved to make way for a big rally in July.

d. Refer to Circular Letter #45. Re: NFP meeting w/ Nanay Piling. Aside for BOM Nanay Piling combines the Body Basal Temp Sympto Thermal and Billings Ovulation Method (BOM). Fr. Lambert suggested to tap prolifers of Alabang namely Rene Evidente for formation on NFP. For NFP-BOM (Billings Ovulation Method), Rally Ganar is a good resource person and trainer. Website for all DOP circulars are available at: www.dop.ph , dop@multiply.com

e. Vic and Minda Mallilin will be appointed as official representative of the Diocese on the Ministry of Migrant Workers.
3. Item 5 – Pastoral Plan of Action in the Year of the Youth 2011

a. Refer to p. 2b. of matrix – by October 2011 Sex Education for Parents must be in place.
b. Sis Connie reported that in their parish they had a whole day session with Dra. Lucille Montes on “How to teach our children sex education”.
c. Fr. Lambert ---Bishop wants materials and modules. All parishes must have: CBCPs “Choosing Life” as reference. Fr. Fidel will give materials from DOPSA & MAPSA. Collate all possible materials. With the end of parents teaching parents.
d. Bro. Gerry suggested a Pontifical Council document “Truth and Meaning of Human Sexuality” as a possible reference. Plan should involve the youth.
e. Fr. Lambert COMCARE to cascade Catechetical modules re: Sex Education materials.
f. Fr. Lamber asled Bro. Dave to help in searching pro-life powerpoints and other presentations to have a repository of pro-life videos.
g. Sis. Mel Suggested to break-up vicariate leaders to work on the detailed plan of action in line with the matrix goals for the Youth using same process applied in the DPA and the setting up of the recent matrix goals.
h. Fr. Lambert requested everyone to collate materials to develop a module on parents’ education regarding Christian sexuality education of children. Deadline for collation of materials is on June 15 to Bro. Rey & Sis Mel. So on June 22 next meeting at Holy Family Vicariate (Our Lady of Pillar) come up with collated module and programs. Afterwards sit down with experts Dra. Angie & Dra. Lucille Montes. Invite experts if possible schedule permitting.

f. Vicariate Reports:


1. Counseling Ministry ( Sis. Perla Acosta / Sis. Ruby Palma) –

a. After graduation , there is a commitment letter good for one year. To date, there were no resignation of officers.
b. Refer to the submitted report for counseling group updates.

2. Vicariate of San Antonio de Padua (Sis Connie & Bro. Zoilo Gabriel) –

a. Monthly meeting held on May 9 at Our Lady of Peace Parish.
b. The NFP training on May 28-29 will be attended by Connie Gabriel and Bel Abanes.
c. A Parenting seminar “HAKBANG” will be held on June 4, 2011 at San Antonio de Padua.
d. Next Vicariate meeting will be on June 13 hosted by OLUP.
e. MPP No. 16 is scheduled on June 25 and 26.

3. Vicariate of Our Lady of the Abandoned North (Bro. Gerry & Zeny Mallillin)

a. VOLA North GMM meeting was held last 5/14/2011 at St. Peregrine Parish.
b. There was a vicariate wide awareness campaign headed by Lay Leader Arlene Hernandez. participated by 70 guests from COY.
c. Seven (7) out of twelve (12) parishes will send representatives for Nanay Piling NFP seminar.

4. Vicariate of St. Martin De Porres (Bro Dave & Sis Marilyn Ordoñez)

a. First parish “Ministry Fair” on May 29 to encourage parish involvement.
b. June 5 First Holy Communion under COF.
c. June 11 will be the first Post-Cana activity entitled “Kamustahan at Kapihan” with a talk by Fr. Dennis Paez entitled “Affair-proof Marriage: Walang Kaliwaan.”
d. Furnish copies of the video played earlier on RH.

5. Vicariate of Sta. Rita de Cascia (Paeng and Nancy Barcelona)

a. VSAP keen on Counseling Center but will have to wait for new priest. Another VSAP Priority is NFP pending MOA.
b. No meeting in May. Will meet on June 30.
c. Have met with Vicariate PPC heads to ask support for the continuance of old members.


Next meeting: 6/22/2011, 7:30 p.m., Our Lady of Pillar, Pilar Village, LP